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Writer's pictureJill Hampton

Handling Conflict Biblically




"If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all."—Romans 12:18 (ESV)

Conflict is inevitable in life, whether within our families, friendships, workplaces, or even within the church, because we are all imperfect people. However, as Christians, we are called to respond to conflict in a way that honors God and reflects His love. Instead of avoiding or escalating disagreements, we must seek resolution in a manner that aligns with biblical principles.


1. Pursue Peace First

Romans 12:18 tells us to live at peace with everyone "as far as it depends on you." This means taking responsibility for our part in a conflict and striving for peace, even if the other person is unwilling. Jesus calls us to be peacemakers (Matthew 5:9), which involves humility, grace, and a willingness to forgive.


Reflection: When faced with conflict, am I pursuing peace or my own sense of justice? How can I take a step toward reconciliation today?


2. Approach with Love and Humility

In Ephesians 4:2, Paul encourages believers to be "completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." It's easy to become defensive or prideful in conflict, but God's Word calls us to respond with love and humility. We must ask the Holy Spirit to guide our words and attitudes so that we can engage in difficult conversations with kindness and patience.


Reflection: Do I approach conflict with humility or prioritize being right? How can I better reflect Christ’s love in challenging situations?


3. Speak the Truth in Love

While we are called to be gentle, we are also called to be truthful. Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to "speak the truth in love." This means addressing issues directly but with a heart that desires restoration, not retaliation. It's not about avoiding hard truths but about presenting them in a way that promotes healing, understanding, and reconciliation.


Reflection: Am I more focused on winning the argument or restoring the relationship? How can I balance truth and love in my interactions?


4. Be Quick to Forgive

Forgiveness is at the heart of resolving conflict biblically. Colossians 3:13 instructs us to "bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Holding onto grudges or bitterness only deepens division, but when we forgive, we reflect the grace that God has shown us.


Reflection: Am I holding onto unforgiveness in my heart? How can I extend grace just as Christ has extended it to me?


Closing Prayer:

Heavenly Father, help me handle conflict in a way that reflects Your heart. When disagreements arise, guide me to pursue peace, speak truth in love, and respond with humility and forgiveness. Let Your Holy Spirit lead me so that my actions and words honor You, bringing reconciliation where there is division. Amen.


Supporting Scriptures:

  • Matthew 18:15 — "If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over."

  • Proverbs 15:1 — "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

  • James 1:19 — "Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger."


Reflection for Today:

Consider a conflict you are currently facing. How can you apply the biblical principles of peace, humility, truth, and forgiveness to bring resolution? Pray for God's wisdom and grace as you seek to honor Him.

 

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